Social Emotional Learning (SEL)

Killingly Public Schools Social and Emotional Learning (SEL)

The following resources have been created for families and staff to support student’s social and emotional development. You will find links to KPS resources, links to each school’s SEL resources as well as resources from organizations outside of KPS which may assist you in supporting your child/children’s social and emotional development.  

Mission Statement:

The Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) and well being of our students, staff and families is at the heart of building a high quality education for all. Killingly Public Schools strive to co-create a supportive learning environment where all students and adults can enhance their social and emotional competencies, feel a sense of belonging, and  heal and thrive in a meaningful way. Building positive relationships helps to establish and empower a supportive community of learners.  We strive to enhance equity experiences and outcomes for all students and adults across race, gender identity, disability, language and socio-economic backgrounds

What is Social Emotional Learning?

Social Emotional Learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions.

The following information is from the CASEL website:

CASEL 5 Core Competencies of SEL

Why is Social and Emotional Learning Important?

A growing body of research suggests SEL skills are crucial for academic and life success. Students and teachers with strong SEL skills are able to work collaboratively and respectfully in diverse settings. Social and emotional learning helps teachers, administrators and parents create safe, positive and supportive learning environments for all students. Effective social and emotional learning programming promotes and improves students attitudes about themselves, their classmates and their education.

Social and Emotional Learning promotes a positive and productive learning environment for all students, supporting emotional and social growth. Students who participate in SEL programming have been shown to have improved academic achievement, improved emotional well-being, and graduate with important emotional intelligence skills that are increasingly valued in the workplace and community in our increasingly collaborative and diverse world.

Who Should Practice Social and Emotional Learning?

Social and Emotional Learning begins with adults modeling positive behavior. To achieve a positive and supportive school environment, adults need to model SEL skills for their students. Educators who develop their SEL skills in tandem with their students reap the rewards of improved mental health and more effective instruction. Outside the classroom, adults who practice SEL behaviors are more productive and have better, more collaborative relationships with their colleagues. 

5 Core Competencies for Social and Emotional Learning

Effective social and emotional learning programming involves coordinated classroom, schoolwide, family, and community practices that help students develop the following five key skills:


The ability to accurately recognize one’s emotions and thoughts and their influence on behavior. This includes accurately assessing one’s strengths and areas for growth and possessing a well-grounded sense of confidence and optimism.


The ability to regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations. This includes managing stress, controlling impulses, motivating oneself, and setting and working toward achieving personal and academic goals.


The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others from diverse backgrounds and cultures, to understand social and ethical norms for behavior, and to recognize family, school, and community resources and supports.

Relationship Skills

The ability to establish and maintain healthy and rewarding relationships with diverse individuals and groups. This includes communicating clearly, listening actively, cooperating, resisting inappropriate social pressure, negotiating conflict constructively, and seeking and offering help when needed.

Responsible Decision Making

The ability to make constructive and respectful choices about personal behavior and social interactions based on consideration of ethical standards, safety concerns, social norms, the realistic evaluation of consequences of various actions and the well-being of self and others.


Five Social and Emotional Competencies

Parent - Guardians SEL at Home


Top 10 SEL books for Parents/Guardians

SEL Support at home: Confident Parents/Guardians Confident Kids

Social and Emotional Learning for adults: CASEL Cares: Strategies for Being Your Best Possible SELF with Dr. Marc Brackett


Pandemic Resources


Mental Health Resources

Additional Resources